We've all been there.
As designers, we regularly have our hearts ripped out of our chest, thrown on the ground and then backed over by a German Automobile. That fabric scheme we "KNOW" is brilliant, gets filed away for FCU - Future Client Use. We re-source a more client-centric light fixture despite swearing up and down that this is the PERFECT fixture, we don't even need to look anymore. Not to mention the client calling to say that our fabulously, designed to the nth detail room is on indefinite hold as the roof just caved in.
I've also gotten in my car and headed out to meet prospective clients who have passed muster enought to warrant a meeting to get there and discover what we "MUST" work with or what we have to ignore or we discover that the budget cup does not in fact, runneth over. This requires a designer's skin to thicken. You have to let it roll off of you even if every nerve in your body is screaming "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I recently had a lighting saga unfold with a project. I spec'd lights initially that were deemed out of budget. So we went with another more cost effective and funky option that the client loved UP until the point that they were installed. The glass wasn't golden as much as it was YELLOW. We then took a few more months to try and find something new. Dozens of emails back and forth. Trips to shops. More trips including a day where I tagged along. We finally found the perfect set of lights. We ordered them. Guess what they are - yup, the first set of lights that I specified over 6months ago.
Not that I need to say I told you so, but I DO do this for a living. If you go to a doctor because your skin itches and they discover you have a heart valve problem do you say - leave my heart alone and just give me the skin cream? That would be foolish. Why is it any different with design? If you want light and bright and airy - why on earth are you settling with your existing dark and dreary furniture? If you are going to blow out the back half of your house, don't you want the front to match?
I know it can be scary handing over all of the decision to the designer, but if you give them all of the information they require, if you are open and honest with them about your goals and your budget maybe you should let them run with it. You get to approve everything and make key decisions but they will be the ones serving up the choices. They will be using their experience, to drive their selections which includes budget considerations, practical use/wearability and function and previous trial and error (aka first hand experience) to help you make those decisions. Freshening up is one thing but it's rarely enough unless you've already got fabulous design on which to work off of.
There's nothing worse than decorating around a $500, $1000, $2000 mistake. It hurts sometimes to admit this but it's true. Big Picture thinking is where it's at. It's the perfect cure for these Design Disappointments. Hiring a designer and placing your trust in them is a great way to ward off DD from happening from the start. You'll occasionally break your designer's heart but stick to the big vision and they will be forgotten. Hold the course. Tried and True.